Diagnosis: TEMPLE NEGLIGENCE
Dr. Adriona Taylor, DNP, MSN, ANP-C, BSN, RN, FCN

My daughter once asked me, “Mom, what is your favorite holiday?”

Immediately and with much enthusiasm, as “Joy to the World, This Christmas and Silent Night” simultaneously played in my head” I responded, “Christmas!”

Then she asked, “Why?”

With an even bigger smile on my face I replied, “ Because it’s Christmas!”

That may not have been the best reply to give someone under four feet tall but it was the first thing out of my mouth and I meant every word, although, it was only three simple words. For a moment, in my mind, I escaped the conversation and began to ponder, “Because it’s Christmas” and to me, that meant an array of things!!

This time of year is stunning, sensational, and splendid just simply…. Spectacularly Stupendous! From the remembrance of Jesus’s birth, to Christmas carols, to shopping in New York at Macy’s to shopping online at Amazon.com and QVC.com, to hot chocolate with marshmallows and mistletoes, to Hallmark movies, to wrapping presents, to sitting around the fireplace in Christmas pjs, to the whitest snow ever, to Christmas productions, to the smiles on the faces of beautiful children and the list went on and on in my mind for at least one solid minute! After allowing my mind to wonder a little further, I realized that beyond all of these “jaw-dropping” things that makes me over elated, which is a true feeling about this time of year…. I realized there were other feelings present too! The other part of my truth was: 11 months had past, it’s December and I am pooped, tired nearing exhaustion. Not even noticing, that by October, I had traded in my shoes for skates, I have been giving the YMCA and OrangeTheory Fitness free money monthly since September, meeting after meeting, travel upon travel, conference call stacked on top of another conference call, I promise all 5 of the children’s school activities quadrupled (at least it felt that way), fast food meals became the norm, sleep well, “what is that?’ and no, ministry at the church was not slowing down.. I closed my eyes in an attempt to reflect even harder and I discovered more…. verbal conversations were fewer and shorter because texting became the number one way to communicate, laughing was far and few between, tension visited my home more frequently and my children were falling asleep on the way home after church night services (the church is only 5 minutes away)….The conclusion of the matter, we, my family and I, were on auto-pilot because we were too busy and too tired.. Sounds familiar?

I can almost bet, if I was a betting woman that you murmured the same words I did. “If I can push through and make it to January 1st, I will be better. Right?

Well, I am glad you decided to stop by today and visit with me, Dr. NP to obtain a more accurate diagnosis versus your self-diagnosis as I had done.

Our more accurate diagnosis is: “Temple Negligence”

I Corinthians 6:19 NLT says, “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself.” Paul shares this truth with the church at Corinth specifically addressing sexual immortality within our temples. However, I believe, like unto it, God desires us to handle our tabernacles with care holistically, because each one was made with much thought, precision and an abundance of love. Temple Negligence will look different for each one of us and the degree of negligence will vary but it does not change the diagnosis and it does not change the truth, that you are “Out-of Balance.” Are you over-eating or under eating? What are you eating? Are you stressed? What does your prayer life resemble? Is your bible on the shelf? Do they know your name at the gym? Do you isolate? Do you laugh anymore? When is the last time you treated yourself to something nice? Why do you work so much? Are you still having fun moments with your family? Is your family altar collecting dust? It does not matter, where you fit on the continuum or whether you play the role of father, mother, daughter or son…Temple Negligence is a condition that is a big deal that needs a big, effective treatment plan! Without proper treatment, you and I will suffer but beyond this…our Family will be affected, majorly and in worst-case scenarios, could become non-existent. This conclusion is drawn because individuals make up families and the health of the individual greatly impacts the health of the family unit. So, how healthy are you really? Don’t let Temple Negligence lead to Family Negligence!

As we move from 2018 to 2019, I challenge you to START NOW and break the reoccurring cycle of contracting “Temple Negligence” again, this time next year! How you may ask? Here’s your treatment plan:

REST, REST, REST, REST

Study this word inside and out! Choose to live by it, starting today, December 31st!

“He lets me rest in green meadows; he leads me beside peaceful streams.”

Psalms 23:2(NLT)

“It is useless for you to work so hard from early morning until late at night, anxiously working for food to eat; for God gives rest to his loved ones.”

Psalms 127:2

Just that simple, REST!

Rest = balance!

Some of you still may be asking what does this look like. Here are a few examples that can be incorporated as an individual and as a family:

  • Sit in the car a few moments before you go in to greet your family after a long day at work.
  • Sing louder in the car.
  • Laugh more and a little harder.
  • Go to the gym for just 10 minutes, 3 -5 times a week. Any start is a start!
  • Try a new veggie or Smoothie, once every 3 months.
  • Drink your favorite coffee at the coffee shop and not in the car.
  • Spend a few extra minutes in the shower.
  • Learn a verse a month.
  • Get off the computer one hour before bed.
  • Do family altar, 3-5 days a week, 5-10mins each time. Start Now!
  • Play charades as a family and the winners cook breakfast the next morning.
  • Let the grandkids stay over an extra weekend.
  • Take your grandson for a tractor ride.
  • Make a new dish from scratch together.

In conclusion, my daughter helped me discover some deep embedded truth by her simple yet thought provoking question. I have learned that I love Christmas, because it is Christmas and because of all the reasons I shared above but Most Importantly, to remind you and I as well as our families, not to forget that Jesus came to give us rest because he know we would need it over and over again.

Rosemary Tate

Rosemary Tate

Family Ministry Facilitator

 

As we read the Book of Genesis, we see the ideal and traditional family instituted by God.  The husband and wife, Adam and Eve, are created by God and given orders to multiply – that is produce offspring, children (Genesis 1:27-28).  The family is the oldest human institution and is an important organization in society.  The family fulfills many important functions in society.   It is the unit into which children are born.  The family is the umbrella that provides:  Love, Protection, Nurturing, Training, Economic support and much more for children.  The family is the primary organization responsible for providing “holistic” – (mind, body and spirit) development of the child. In today’s society, we encounter families consisting of a variety of compositions.  The UCWM FAMILY MINISTRY’S primary goal is to reach out and minister to ALL FAMILIES.  We seek to equip families with the necessary tools, training and resources that will nurture strong, healthy Christian families.  This ministry is a faith walk, relying on God’s visions, directions and power to foster godly families. God’s Word is rich in wisdom, knowledge and guidance for building a healthy family. Following are a few foundational scriptures on which we can start building.

  • Husband & Wife relationship:  Ephesians 5: 21 – 33, I Peter 3:1-7, Colossians 3:18 – 19,
  • Children:  Ephesians 6:1 – 4, Colossians: 3: 20, Exodus 20 – 12, Proverbs 6: 20             – 22
  • Parental Responsibilities:  Colossians 3:21   Deuteronomy 6:6 – 9, Proverbs 22:6, 22: 15, 29:15, 13:22, 13:24,
  • Extended Family:  Titus 2:2 – 6

Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the Word of Truth.  II Timothy 2:15

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